climbing out

from the time a little girl sees her first disney princess movie, the dream of finding prince charming begins to take shape...whether it be snow white, cinderella or belle, finding love is our fantasy and we spend the next several years trying to find that...what we dont see at the time is that not all love will fulfill the idea given to us from those movies...we will have many failed "love" stories and have to try and put the broken pieces of our heart back together more than once...but love is what our hearts are for...

"love is a respect of the preciousness and worth of a person"

but what happens when we fall in love?  this is much more intense and sets us up for much deeper pain...falling in love...why do we "fall" in love? why do we "fall head over heals" in love?  i dont want to fall...i want to fly, i want to soar, i want to run or skip or walk...anything but fall...

webster defines "fall" as 1) to become lower in degree or level 2) to move or extend in a downward direction...love should lift us up, not bring us down...love should not lower us but raise us to a new plane...

so once youve fallen "in" love, how do you fall "out" of love?  when being in love with someone hurts both of you, there has to be a way to fall out of love...some seem to be able to do it without problem... a friend recently told me that you fall in love and climb out...whats so appealing about that?

maybe we should redefine our story book fantasies and all the cliche phrases describing love...because climbing out of this chasm is next to impossible...